I love listening to podcasts and recently heard Michael Meade's podcast entilled 'Unlocking Destiny'. This inspired me to reconnect with his book Fate and Destiny: The Two Agreements of the Soul. He speaks about two inherent aspect within human life.
"Fate is an old word which suggests limits and even hints of fatality, and yet fate is also the doorway to destiny. In the very old ideas of this world, it is the limitations that create the openings for growth. The refusal to accept limitations keeps people stuck where they are."
It is the limitations that create the openings for growth. I am deeply touched by this statement. Often times limitations feel like failure or even punishment. We think "what have I done wrong?" or "what have I done to deserve this?". Michael turns this idea on its head.
Some of the ways we might embody times of limitation are feeling contracting, narrowing, stiffening, gripping, collapsing, depressing, resisting and hiding. Some emotions are frustration, anger, hopelessness, despair, distress, lack... Each one of us will have a unique constellations of sensations, feelings and narrative for our experience of limiting times.
Michael offers us a radical shift in perceptive; to include our limitations. Not only that, but to also see these as required on the path to growth.
"Fate is exactly that which limits us and destiny is that great thing to which we are called. And we have to struggle with the fate in order to get closer to the destiny."
When we are right in the middle of difficulty, stuckness and limitation we are also at the doorway to growth, to destiny. I find this extremely helpful to remember as I traverse difficult times. To keep my balance when the winds of life are blowing a gale and I fear I may be blown over.
Another way to keep balance is in our body. As I write this I am sitting on a stool that I can raise up high so my thighs are slanting downwards towards my knees. I am sitting so that 25% of my weight is in my buttocks and 75% in my thighs.
From this position I imagine my inner ear - left and right inside the ear and behind the eye. I tune to this location and notice if both sides are feeling equally boyant. Imagine rolling a marble back and forth your open palm. These marbles are in your inner ear and when you roll them back and forth your inner ear awakens into boyancy. Its a tiny movement. So small that your head only moves a milimetre or two.
As your inner year marbles dance the weight of your body hangs down into your seat - 25% buttocks and 75% thighs. It feels like ongoing organising movements as your body balances in gravity. Hang out here for a few minutes and then take a walk and observe how you feel. How are your feet feeling? Your space? How about your head? Your pelvis?
Here is Michael's again
"We enter the world threaded in a certain way, aimed in a certain direction... gifted in certain ways, marked in certain ways, styled in certain ways. And the struggles of life are not there to defeat us but to push us into a deeper place of self revelation in which we find out who we already are."
Perhaps I can imagine in my body the location or feeling or movement associated with my inner gift. Perhaps it feels like warmth in my heart, maybe a silver thread that is weaving through me, maybe it is a golden glow deep in my belly or a pearl in the centre of my being.
I'll leave you to wonder in your own imagination. I'd love to hear what you notice.
May we all be blessed by enough security to hold us and enough radical possibility for our inner gift to shine into the world.
* All quotes are taken from Michael Meade's Living Myth podcast Episode 36, 14/09/17